Going through the big D... don't mean Dallas

So, its official after 14 years Jim and I are calling it quits. It was great for ten and miserable for the last 5. I'm the one who filed, but Jim is the one who wanted out.
Yes, this is my second divorce but the first one was so easy it was more like a break up. I'm seeing a side to Jim I never knew existed and I'm glad I didn't.
There are pluses that I'm trying to focus on - Jim isn't here sitting in front of his computer all the time while I do everything. Jim isn't sitting here moody and not talking. Jim isn't sitting here ignoring me. I've lost 24 pounds and hope to continue the downward trend. I can cook whatever I want for dinner and not worry about it. The kids are okay - they spend most of their time here with me.
While the catalyst for the divorce was Jim's affair, I've become more aware of things I could have done differently and things I should never have accepted. The saddest part of all of this is that it could have ended a long time ago if Jim had just told me he was unhappy.
So, now date nights (where my parents take the kids) are bubble bath nights and my house is really clean - I've purged a lot of stuff after Jim removed his stuff and it looks good.
I have hope that the future will be kinder to me than the past. I plan to be a better friend and take great care of the kids when I have them. I even bought myself a cute little sports car so I can start to feel like Sandy again.